For a single male, one of the easiest and most enjoyable ways of getting into the swinger lifestyle is to hookup with swinger couples who are looking for threesomes.
The process of deciding which couples to contact, messaging them and then hooking up with them is described below.
The first step for a single male who wants enjoy threesome sex with couples is to sign up with an online swinger dating club that has a very large, active, couple membership covering the area you want to consider as your target area. Besides ourselves, there are only three or four other such sites in the U.K. Naturally, we hope you will join ours.
Having joined, the first thing you need to do is to create a really good profile that makes it clear to other members that you are interested in having threesome sex with couples. Whilst sitting back and waiting for others to message you, is something we would never advise, a really good profile is essential for getting other members to be interested in you. You can read more about how to create a winning profile elsewhere in Keys to a Successful Swinger Lifestyle.
Your next step is to carry out a search to identify some couples who might be interested in having a threesome with you. You do this by clicking on the magnifying glass icon you will find located on the red navigation bar at the top of the screen in the members-only section. This will open a search page where you will see a box headed, looking for. The default of this box will be set to female, so change it to couple. Then set the Find people near a town box to the number of miles within which you are prepared to search. The box below this should show your home town; change it only if you want your search to be centred elsewhere. Click Search and the screen will present you with active couples in your chosen area. Your next step is to scroll through the couples, clicking on the ones who are indicating their interest in threesome sex; (this will be indicated in one of the red boxes.)
Clicking opens up the couple's profile which should provide all of the details you need to decide whether or not to contact them. What you are looking for are profiles that specifically state an interest in single males. Don't bother with any couples who want threesomes with single females; they probably won't even reply to you, or if they do, it will be to point out that you didn't read their profile properly!
Once you have selected a number of swinger couples that you think you would enjoy having threesomes with, write them a message, proposing a hookup and click the Send button. The secret to getting favourable replies lies in the wording of your messages.
Ensure your messages are totally personalised. Sending out blanket messages, saying virtually the same thing to everyone is never going to work. Look for things about the couple's profile that you can compliment and look for things to agree about. Not only does it make people feel good to receive compliments and have their values echoed, but by including this sort of thing you are proving that you have taken the trouble to read the profile; something that a lot of guys fail to do.
The messages should not be overly long. It is quality, not quantity you should be aiming at. Always keep in mind the purpose of the message; its an invitation to meet up. Whilst you are introducing yourself, you should ensure that you do not go beyond a short introduction. The recipient can always look at you profile if they want to know more about you at this stage. Keep their appetite whetted for a face to face meeting and never send one of those dreadful, its-all-about-me type messages.
Your initial message can suggest ideas for meeting up but keep the options wide open and be prepared to go along with whatever arrangements the couple come back with in their reply. If they fail to suggest anything or are a bit vague, ensure that you 'close' with dates and places in your follow-up reply.
When you attend your first swinger date with a couple follow all the advice given elsewhere in this series for ensuring the meeting is taken to a successful outcome. If the date is in a public place, you will need to agree a future date and place for the first threesome to take place but if it is held in a private place, your aim should be for the meeting to lead naturally to have sex there and then.
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